"I wanted to let others know I could speak English.” I was taken aback when I heard Lee say one of his reasons for marrying a White woman was to let others know that he spoke English. Lee had a…
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Culturally Welcoming Visit Guidelines: Bringing your non-Asian partner home
As a couple's therapist who primarily works with interracial couples, my couples are often Asian-mixed couple pairings, where one person has an Asian heritage and the other is not. Asian partner often asks how to introduce her/his non-Asian partner to…
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Advancing the Culture of Consensual Sex : Am I a Rapist?
"I hate to be like a rapist." He looked away and was silent for a while. I let his silence fill the space between me and him. As always, the space between me and him was heavy, and I felt…
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잘못된 (인종적) 만남? : 꿍꿍이 속셈? [Brining a “wrong” race: Ulterior Motives?]
어릴적 빨강, 파랑, 초록색등의 색깔이 있는 투평 종이, 셀로판지라고 하던가요? 혹시 기억하시는지요? 선그라스가 흔하지도 않던 때인데 그 셀로판지로 마치 세상에서 제일 멋진 선그라스를 갖고 있는 것처럼 어깨를 으쓱이며 동네 친구들 사이를 누비던 기억이 납니다. 빨간색도, 파랑색도, 초록색도 하나씩 만들어서 꽃들도,…
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잘못된 (인종과의) 만남 [Bringing a “wrong” race] – 통계로 보는 공감대 만들기
5월이 시작 되었습니다. 미국에서 5월은 정신건강에 대한 달이자 아시안 문화를 기념하는 달입니다. 한국에서는 어린이날과 어버이날이 있는 가정의 달이기도 하지요. 저는 이런 5월을 맞아 아시안 문화, 정신건강, 그리고 가정을 포괄하는 주제로 “잘못된 (인종과의) 만남”이라는 시리즈의 글을 시작해 보려고 합니다. 사회적, 문화적,…
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Dear I, Generating Cycle – Sadness & Thinking
Dear, I. I miss you. I think of you every day along with Joe and G, as you know. But, then, it has been almost three months since I wrote to you. Where did the time go? I know you…
Dear Joe & G, Re-Generating Anger & Grief
Spring is in its full force, Joe and G. It feels like almost summer today. How are you, two? I apologize for not writing to you guys as often as I wish. My life has been hectic, yet I am…
Dear G, A space of mental clarity and integration – Heart
My mind is foggy, and my heart is sunken. How have you been G? I am surrounded by the gifts of the Spring. I love to be waking up with rain, chirping birds, barking dogs, cranking up engines, and early…
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Dear Joe, Small Intestine & Critical Thinking
Spring is just around the corner. I wonder how you are doing, Joe. By this time, you are supposed to be back home. I wonder whether you had enough time to ponder about your future while experiencing the homeless's life…
Dear I, Grief and Lung/Large Intestine
Today is the first Full Moon. Tomorrow is your lunar birthday. Congratulations! How are you? I know you are going through several life challenges. The other day, I saw you trying hard to hold your tears. It was the day…
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